Showing posts with label Dance Dad. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dance Dad. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 28, 2020

My Wife and I Truly Enjoyed Another Amazing Dance Recital Week



I have two stepdaughters who are wonderful dancers and who train throughout the school year at a local dance studio. They excel in an array of dance styles -- ballet, pointe, jazz, lyrical, tap, and more. It has been a blessing beyond measure to watch them practice and perform over the past five years. Sometimes, my eyes actually well up with tears as I watch them -- which is something I've written about before in this blog.

It's a great feeling to watch children pursue something that they truly enjoy and that they're good at. Both of my stepdaughters keep physically fit and commit the time needed to become the best dancers that they can be. To see them through the glass at the practice studio or up on a stage brings a real joy to my heart. I'm so often amazed at their strength and power -- wrapped up in poise, gracefulness and flexibility. In so many ways, dance is artistic athleticism. It is movement that commands attention and captures emotions. To look upon a stage of dancers who are expressing the feelings and rhythms of music is something you just don't see everyday. Dance has a way of taking you on an emotional journey, and often times the audience leaves the theater feeling that they have experienced an array of emotions in just a couple of hours.

Due to the Coronavirus, many dance recitals around the world were not able to take place this year. Although my stepdaughters' recitals were postponed for a couple of months, they were able to perform in late July while the audience was instructed to practice social distancing and wear face masks.

In a mere three years, one of our two dancers will be heading off to college -- and three years behind her our last will be leaving to do the same. The time is going to go fast. My wife and I know that from personal experience... with six adult children already out of the nest. I'm truly cherishing these years with them -- whether they're dancing in the studio, on a stage, or simply in the living room. I can't make time slow down; however, I can be conscious of the time that I do have with them at this stage of life.

Although I've never had any formal dance training, I do appreciate how much both girls go through from September through May to prepare for recitals. My dance history began in 1978 when I was 13 years old and would attempt some disco moves in my bedroom -- usually to the Saturday Night Fever soundtrack. Of course, in 1983 I would attempt Michael Jackson's moonwalk (which I actually did in the U.S. Capitol building in 2006 -- something my adult children may remember!). My legs were definitely built more for running than they were dancing! Regardless, I enjoy being a Dance Stepdad and will always be at practices and in the audience cheering on my two youngest stepdaughters. I'm already looking forward to next year's recital.

From Him, Through Him, For Him (Romans 11:36),

Paul J. Staso
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Monday, June 10, 2019

I'm Not a "Dance Dad," But I am a "Dance Step-Dad!"

My four adult children, ages 19 to 26, haven't been on running tracks, baseball fields, soccer fields, basketball courts, volleyball courts, and gymnastics floors for many years, but last year I was blessed to remarry and become a step-dad to four amazing young people -- two of whom are adults and the two youngest are involved in weekly dance classes. Before becoming a step-dad, my experience with youth activities was primarily sports focused. My own children participated on teams that seemed to keep me on the move daily with transporting to practices, weekend games/meets, and some traveling. It was all worth it and I will always treasure the days of watching them participate and compete. Now, I am in the world of dance... a new arena for me as a step-dad.

I recently read an article by a writer and mom who was published at a website owned by the New York Times. In her article, she wrote: "My son plays travel baseball, and I’m glad he does. Competition nurtures resilience, and I love seeing him jump with sheer joy whenever a teammate crosses home plate. But here’s what I don’t love: the hours of my life lost each week taking him to practice and games (easily eight), and the guilt I (kind of) feel about making my husband go alone. When I do show up, I’m either too hot or too cold, and I feel silly shouting things like “Nice cut!”" 

Maybe she's a young Mom and new to the youth sports scene, but I can tell you that after being around youth sports (and even coaching kids) for the past 30 years, I don't believe that any parent should feel as though they are losing hours of their life each week, or feel "silly" shouting words of encouragement, when their child is participating in sports. Is that honestly how parents feel today when it comes to supporting and encouraging their kids in sports? Do a lot of parents feel that they are losing hours of their life and appearing silly in the stands?

Last week, my two youngest step-daughters (ages 11 and 14) participated in three evenings of dance recitals after working hard for 9 months on various dance routines. I, along with my wife and her eldest daughter, sat there with complete joy all three evenings as we witnessed the culmination of their efforts. I even had moments of tears in my eyes -- and not for the first time -- as I was overwhelmed with their heart for dance and how beautiful (and athletic!) they are. No, I didn't feel silly wiping tears away from my cheek. I had taken them to and from dance classes numerous times each week for nine months, watched them practice, and never once felt as though I was losing hours of my life.

Are today's young parents so self centered that they truly feel as though they are wasting time by taking their children to sports activities and cheering them on in their competitions? It's a sad commentary on this generation of parents, and on youth sports in general, if this woman's thoughts about losing time and feeling silly resonate with a lot of other parents.

I am now on a 3-month break from the dance world, and I'll tell you... I miss it. I'm already looking forward to September when I get to take my step-daughters back to the dance studio and be alongside other parents who -- hopefully -- are genuinely excited for their kids; are supportive of their pursuits; are considering the time at practice as a blessing; and, who don't feel silly... but proud. I love being a dance step-dad!

From Him, Through Him, For Him (Romans 11:36),

Paul J. Staso
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