Thursday, May 9, 2019

Can a Strong Woman be a Feminine Woman?

I am blessed to be married to a strong, feminine woman. There is not a day that goes by when I don't see, appreciate and acknowledge the true beauty radiating from my wife in so many ways. I recently read, “Women were created to be strong and powerful and formidable, not in spite of their sex, but because of it. The source of true feminine beauty comes from deep inside a woman’s being and is manifested when their thoughts, words, actions and emotions are in perfect harmony with the purpose of a woman."

Before you read any more, I'm going to give you the answer to the question which headlines today's blog writing. YES! A strong woman can be a feminine woman. How do I know? Because I am fortunate to open my eyes each day to see such a woman at my side. My wife is a shining example of just how beautiful a woman can be when she has complete confidence in who she is, what she wants, and what she's worth. However, her beauty is not wrapped in arrogance, superiority, a demanding demeanor, or insistence on equality in every way. She is my PARTNER in life and we truly compliment one another.

I recently read, "A little known fact that is not spoken about today is that women actually have held power and influenced households, local and global events since the dawn of time... If you’re a woman who understands her true feminine power and uses it to her own advantage, you know exactly what I mean. The look in his eyes. The willingness to please you and do anything to win your attention, time and your presence. His care. His soft touch. His complete surrender to your feminine gifts. The magic that lures him in that he can’t even explain. This is just an example of how a woman can influence or have power over a man -- and "power" over men is a tremendous resource. The trick is to use it wisely and with great care."

I will admit that my wife has true feminine power in our marriage, and she indeed uses it wisely and with great care. In fact, I find everything about my wife attractive -- from her faith to her personality, from the way she cares for our family to her strong work ethic. She is indeed a strong woman in so many of life's arenas, but she also maintains her femininity and the combination is simply intoxicating to me. Unfortunately, some women believe that being 'feminine' equates to a degree of weakness. Personally, I believe that most men find femininity a positive and strong trait in a woman.

Research has shown that men remain, on average, larger and stronger than women, possessing 26 pounds of skeletal muscle, 40 percent more upper-body strength, and 33 percent more lower body strength. From purely a physical standpoint, men tend to have larger frames and possess more strength than women. Yet, there are certainly some women who are stronger than some men! However, this blog post is not about a woman's muscular strength or body build. This is about a woman being strong and confident in who she is; what she believes in; where she's going; and, her worth in a relationship. Such strength, used wisely and with care, is incredibly attractive to men and when joined with femininity, a woman of any age or body type can be both strong and feminine.

I also recently read, "Ironically, a strong woman is not what society tells us it is. No woman is a strong woman because she got a degree. No woman is a strong woman because she got promoted. No woman is a strong woman because of her intellect. No woman is a strong woman because she can do something just as well as a man can or even better than them. No woman is strong because she’s an athlete. No woman is strong because she can lift heavy weights at the gym, or run fast. True strength lies in her ability to embrace her feminine core, and whilst she may be a high achiever, and whilst she may be very intelligent – her real strength is in her true femininity... and in her character. Can she care for others? Can she care not only when it’s easy, but when it’s hard? Can she truly feel, rather than hide her feelings? Can she tell the truth, and influence people for the better? Can she influence without aggression? Can she influence without ego? Can she give without expecting anything back? Can she accept a man, without trying to change him?"

Finally, I came across these words and want to share them with you:

A strong woman is one who feels deeply and loves fiercely.
Her tears flow just as abundantly as her laughter.
A strong woman is both soft and powerful.
She is both Practical and Spiritual.
A strong woman in her essence is a gift to all the world.

Keep Reaching For Life's Mileposts,

Paul Staso